The Challenges and Rewards of Life after 40

Generativity vs. Stagnation

When you consider your life experiences, do your memories and experience create life, enthusiasm, or meaning?  Or do they bring weight, disappointment, or despair?  What does such a survey tell you about yourself?

I suppose some young people may ask such questions, and I yield my hat.  After 34 years as a therapist, I’ve observed that this inventory picks up speed as we age.  Focusing on what breeds life becomes far more important than temporary and self-focused gain (i.e., status, money, possessions).

Perhaps this is why, or at least in part why I value working with clients 40-ish and older.  People’s attention and interest are more fertile toward Meaning and contributing to their world.

Generativity vs. Stagnation is the seventh stage in Developmental Psychologist Erik Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development. It typically occurs during middle adulthood (roughly ages 40–65), though the themes can be relevant at other ages, and if often greatly accelerated by a major medical threat (i.e., a hefty diagnosis earlier in life).

Generativity is the desire and ability to contribute to the well-being of others and future generations. People who achieve Generativity often:

·      Volunteer or participate in their community.

·      Create meaningful work or creative projects.

·      Share knowledge, skills, and values.

·      Mentor or teach others.

As related to mental health Generativity is associated with:

·      Lower levels of depression and loneliness.

·      A stronger sense of purpose and meaning.

·      Higher self-esteem.

·      Greater life satisfaction.

Stagnation occurs when someone feels unproductive, disconnected, or focused primarily on his/her own needs. Signs may include:

·      Dissatisfaction with personal or professional life.

·      Lack of motivation to contribute to others.

·      Self-absorption.

·      Feeling that Life lacks purpose.

As related to mental health Stagnation often leads to:

·      Increased risk of depression or anxiety.

·      Feelings of emptiness or boredom.

·      Lower self-worth.

·      Difficulty finding meaning in daily life.

Factors that influence the outcome

Whether someone develops Generativity or experiences Stagnation can be influenced by:

·      Supportive relationships.

·      Opportunities to mentor or contribute.

·      Meaningful work or hobbies.

·      Physical and mental health.

·      Major life events (such as becoming a parent, changing careers, or retirement).

Promoting Generativity

People can strengthen Generativity by:

·      Building strong family and social relationships.

·      Learning and teaching new skills.

·      Mentoring younger people.

·      Volunteering in their community.

·      Pursuing projects that have lasting value or benefit others.

·      Reflecting on personal values and legacy (see also “Ethical Will,” based in Genesis 49).

Generativity versus Stagnation describes the challenge of deciding whether to invest in the growth of others and contribute to society or become disconnected and self-focused. From a mental health perspective, fostering Generativity is generally associated with greater resilience, purpose, and emotional well-being, while prolonged stagnation may contribute to feelings of dissatisfaction and poorer mental health.

How are you proactive in creating Generativity in your own life?  Have you written your own Ethical Will?

Leah Wilson Walker, PhD, LPC-S

leahmcdill@nlcc1.com