Imposter syndrome is often rooted in thinking that everyone around you is highly aware of your lack of qualification. By looking at the actual reality of the situation it will often be revealed that you are exactly where you should be according to your credentials. Being honest about your capabilities should allow you to have confidence in your position as it is a reflection of all you have worked so hard to accomplish up until this point.

Anxiety is a natural part of life, and it isn’t always a bad thing. In many cases, it can motivate us toward meaningful goals like preparing for a test or showing up well in a job interview. But when anxiety begins to interfere with our relationships or keeps us from showing up as ourselves, it can become something else entirely.

In marriage, it can feel like we fight about everything—and sometimes about nothing that really matters. Many couples are surprised to find that it’s possible to have a fairly intense conflict over something small and ordinary. In most conflicts, the process matters more than the content. Even when the subject seems simple or non-essential, a lot of distress can get stirred up in our nervous system. Once that happens, the conflict escalates and we become dysregulated.

When couples come to therapy, they are often stuck in cycles of blame and other intense emotions. Sometimes the blame is directed outward such as: “You never listen.” or “You’re always critical.” or some similar emotional statements. When couples move from blaming themselves or others to understanding themselves, they become more thoughtful, more grounded, and more capable of genuine connection. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s maturity.

We were created for community but at times our internal narratives or heightened expectations keep us from fully experiencing it. Therapy is a helpful tool for individuals experiencing these kinds of burdens who need the encouragement to engage with their relationships in a way that brings emotional freedom.