Human nature, especially when feeling anxious or threatened, tends to look outside of ourselves. We look to other people and other circumstances to explain what must be causing our distress. We also assume many things without really stopping to question those assumptions. This way of interacting with our problems becomes automatic. It’s often how the brain works when it feels unsafe.

Every family experiences emotional stress and most people are able to sense the increase in emotional tension within the family, even before anyone says a word. You might feel a shift in your body: a bit of tightness, a faster heartbeat, or a sense of pressure. Bowen Family Systems Theory calls this the family anxiety field. It’s the emotional atmosphere that forms when one or more family members feel upset or anxious.

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