One of the most challenging, yet often overlooked family transitions is learning to relate to your son or daughter as an adult rather than as a child. Both parents and adult children often discover that although life has changed, their relationship patterns have not.

Many people assume boundaries are simply a communication skill like learning how to say “no,” ask for what you need, or limit unhealthy behavior. However, for those who struggle with anxiety or people-pleasing, setting boundaries can feel emotionally overwhelming, even when they know the boundary is healthy.

A large part of the work of managing anxiety is establishing your values and principles, which will define your boundaries. The next step is increasing your tolerance for discomfort from other people not approving of your boundaries. It sounds simple, but it can be hard work. It requires time and effort to tease out the real you and find your boundaries.

Anxiety is a natural part of life, but for many, it can be overwhelming at times.